I've practiced EMDR for years, and I'm now training in Brainspotting. Here's an honest look at how the two actually differ, what surprised me most, and who I think each approach tends to fit best.

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Why you keep chasing the same painful relationship patterns, and how childhood trauma shapes who you're drawn to.

A real look at what therapy involves for high-achieving adults dealing with anxiety and childhood trauma.

Why “my childhood wasn't that bad” often hides real childhood trauma, and how to recognize it in yourself.

Why your need for control likely started early, in an environment where being in control was the only thing that felt safe.

What high functioning anxiety actually looks like in high-achieving professionals, and why it makes complete sense.

Three questions to ask when someone triggers you and you can't figure out why, and what it reveals about old wounds.

How bottom-up therapy works with your nervous system, not just your thoughts, to reduce anxiety and trauma symptoms.

Practical ways to stop worrying about things outside your control, and what to do with that anxious energy instead.

How bottom-up therapy works with your nervous system, not just your thoughts, to reduce anxiety and trauma symptoms.

The four methods EMDR therapists use for bilateral stimulation, from virtual EMDR to the butterfly hug technique.

Why the endless chase to become your 'best self' can leave you feeling like you're never enough, and how to break the cycle.